'Standing Tall'

April 2, 2008— -- Rutgers University women's head basketball coach C. Vivian Stringer has experienced enough tragedies during her life to pack into five lifetimes. Her coal-miner father lost both of his legs when Stringer was a child, her husband died suddenly of a heart attack in 1991, her daughter, Nina, was misdiagnosed with a case of spinal meningitis that left her unable to walk and talk, and coach Stringer had her own battle with breast cancer. During numerous stays in the hospital, Stringer began to do some soul-searching.

"I spoke to so many preachers and ministers and rabbis to understand why things happen as they did. And I was told often that we are all put on this earth to help one another, and that my experience would help others. And I didn't understand that at the time."

Instead of feeling sorry for herself, Stringer has stood tall and faced these challenges head-on. She realized that she could not abandon her love for the game of basketball and her responsibility of coaching and mentoring young women on and off the basketball court.

"We can all be knocked down," Stringer told ABC News, "but we've got to get up. It's not that we can handle so many of the things that come to us, but we respond to that."

Last year, Coach Stringer and her team had to face a painful challenge together when syndicated radio host Don Imus made his inflammatory comments about certain members of the Rutgers women's basketball team.

"It wasn't like it was something that was new to me," Stringer says, "You know, how do I stand up? And I taught these young ladies as I had taught them throughout life and as I had learned throughout life, you stand up."

After the controversy had died down, Imus told Stringer and the rest of the team that he would stay in touch with them. So far, Stringer says, he has not done so.

"I'm disappointed because I would think that he was a man of his word or I would hope he was a man of his word, but it didn't happen."

Stringer knows that she cannot force Imus to reach out to her and her players, but she understands that she and her team can control how they respond to adversity.

"There are a lot of things that can happen and that people can say, and we can't do anything about how people might respond to us, but we can do something about how we respond, and I take that just as a learning lesson to know that this is the way that is, and it's OK."

Stringer writes about all of these obstacles in her life, along with her triumphs on and off the hardwood, in her new book, Standing Tall: A Memoir of Tragedy and Triumph. In the book, Stringer writes about how she turned to her family, friend, players, and faith in trying times. Stringer has learned from all of these different experiences and uses what she has learned in life to pass on to her players, who themselves are on the verge on facing the real world and the challenges that come along with it.

ABC News Radio's Pat Hayes talked with coach Stringer about her new book, about the challenges she has faced in her life, and her coaching career.